Fascinating Article on Trans Amourous Men

On vice.com.

By "trans amourous men" here is meant: men who are attracted (romantically and/or sexually) to transwomen. The article talks about the discrimination, and outright hostility, such men face, and how that can make it difficult for transwomen to find fulfilling relationships: especially transwomen who haven't had bottom surgery.

Very Interesting Post on Consent

1. Go Slow
2. Be Aware Of Her
3. Verbally Check In With Her 
4. Your Boner, Your Problem
5. Your No Is Just As Valid As Hers

From The Gentleman’s Guide To Proactive Sexual Consent

Links to Some Good Recent Posts

Kind of trying to catch up here. So, a few links to recent (and some not so recent) blog posts I think are worth reading.

• Unsurprisingly, the gay-straight binary makes no more sense than the gender binary (Slate, Role Reboot).
• Nice post from Emily Heist Moss apologizing for thinking male sexuality is as simple as the stereotype has it (Role Reboot).
• Great article about why it really can be empowering to be on the receiving end of rough sex (AlterNet), as Belle Knox bravely insisted (xoJane). The comments definitely show people how confused people are about this.

I Don't Fit Into Those Boxes

When we speak about gender, we are speaking about the masculine and the feminine. What on earth do we mean by the "masculine" and the "feminine"?

Those of us who live unhappily in a world with only these categories can find this kind of question especially difficult. It's widely understood now that masculinity and femininity are social categories rather than biological or anatomical ones. But they are no less real for that. If you want to know why they matter, then reflect on this for a bit: The easiest way to tell whether something is "feminine" is to ask yourself how likely a boy who expressed interest in it would be to get teased, taunted, ridiculed, or ostracized for doing so.